Every April, conversations around autism take center stage with Autism Acceptance Month, World Autism Awareness Day, and National Adult Autism Awareness Day. While awareness of neurodiversity has grown in recent years, the public’s picture of autism often remains narrow—frequently tied to stereotypes of young boys with obvious social or behavioral differences. What’s often overlooked is the reality that many adults, especially women, go undiagnosed for years because their experiences don’t fit this limited mold.
One reason for these missed diagnoses is a coping strategy known as masking, or high-masking. This involves consciously or unconsciously concealing autistic traits to blend into social environments. While it may help avoid immediate misunderstandings, the constant effort to perform in ways that feel unnatural can lead to stress, burnout, and a sense of disconnection from one’s authentic self.
Recognizing Signs of High-Masking Autism
1. Social Imitation
Someone may closely observe others and mimic their gestures, expressions, or conversational styles to avoid standing out. This can create a polished surface that hides underlying struggles.
2. Communication Gaps
A person might rely on rehearsed lines or scripts when speaking, which can feel different from their natural expression. Mismatches between words, tone, and body language may also appear.
3. Managing Sensory Input
Sensitivity to light, noise, or textures can still be present, even if hidden. In public, the person may work hard to suppress reactions, only to feel overwhelmed later in private.
4. Need for Predictability
Routines and structure often serve as anchors. Sudden changes can heighten stress, so individuals may create carefully controlled schedules to maintain balance.
5. Hidden Exhaustion
Behind the effort to “fit in” lies emotional fatigue. Over time, the energy spent on masking can lead to burnout, anxiety, or feelings of detachment.
Moving Toward Understanding
Noticing these patterns doesn’t automatically mean someone is autistic, but it can signal that more exploration is needed. Consulting with professionals experienced in adult autism can provide clarity and support. Greater awareness of high-masking behaviors helps dismantle stereotypes and opens the door to more compassionate understanding of what life on the spectrum can look like beyond the surface.
